Mae asked a newly married woman, whose wedding received a lot of (local) attention, how her hubby was doing. Mae was informed of their separation and some details that led up to the separation. There were some red flags that the woman ignored. She wasn’t the first nor would she be the last to ignore red flags. Mae has ignored red flags also. Why do we as humans do this (male and female)? Mae is not a psychologist and definitely not a psychiatrist, so Mae does not have an answer to that question. Mae can point out some red flags that those pursuing relationships, especially marriage, need to be vigilant about. If a person is divorced, find out why. (For the Pharisees who will say the Bible does not say one can divorce, read your Bible. There are biblical grounds for divorce). If he or she has been married more than once, twice, three or four times, etc.– RED FLAG. If they want to control what you say, wear, how you spend money, who you communicate with, etc.– RED FLAG. Mae could go on and on, but Mae likes to keep it short, although this blog is a little lengthy. To believers, if you are thinking about pursuing a relationship with an unbeliever–RED FLAG. Light and dark do not mix. Don’t justify it by saying God allowed it. If it’s allowed, it may not be God’s perfect will. May you recognize the red flags before getting into a relationship and if you are already in one, seek guidance. If you are a believer, pray, read your Bible and rely on the Holy Spirit.